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Are We Really "Sorry"?

The most genuine apology you can make (to yourself or another) is consistent changed behavior.

We’ve all felt the the remorse that follows when our actions or decisions have had a negative impact on another person (or ourselves). We rush to say, “I’m sorry!” in the hope that the other person gives us a reprieve, (often to alleviate the guilt or shame we carry). Yet, “sorry” just becomes a shallow ‘out’ in the moment, especially if that “sorry” isn’t followed by changed, consistent behavior.

The caveat of “I’m sorry”, should be the accompaniment of a commitment to change the very behavior we are sorry for … otherwise it simply becomes a way to manipulate our way out of accountability.

My Mum used to say, “Mean what you say, and say what you mean!” Great wisdom.


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